Jessica Bjokne
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11/29/2014 8 Comments

Another loss.  

This is why I am afraid to hope. This is why I'm afraid to let myself "go there." Coming from the heights of joy and crashing down to the dark overpowering waters. The framed picture of the embryos stares at me while I do the dishes. I see it through blurred eyes and speak to them. "you could have just stayed. You could have just stayed in there...and attached and grew...." My thoughts turn to God, why? I know you aren't going to tell me the why, but I'm still asking it.

I wasn't blind or dumb. I knew that there was a very good chance this wouldn't work out how we would like it to. I find myself missing the past even, when we were happier, just living and enjoying the holidays without a big event or wait weighing on us. Sure the desire to have a baby in our arms has never ever left, but when you aren't spending every resource you have and every ounce of energy and thought on something it's a different feeling.

I know it's not the end of the road.  I know God is going to sustain me and R through life's struggles, yet I still feel so very tired.  I feel like someone has flung me off a very tall building and I am laying mangled on the ground.  While I lay there someone is kicking me over and over and over.

Please don't feel sorry for us...it's not your fault.  It's not anyone's fault. There just aren't always answers...really there rarely are answers to some of these deep questions but at least we are alive, we are breathing and God is and HAS sustained us through immeasurable difficulties.  

He hasn't left us yet and like Jacob in the Old Testament, I WILL not let Him go until He blesses me. He has promised me He will never leave me nor forsake me, and I will not let go.    

We were part of an amazing process, we were able to see life at it's earliest stages and I will forever be thankful for that.  I will cherish and not forget those cells that held dna and life and the hope of a future.  

 

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Heidi Fuller
11/28/2014 11:16:51 pm

Then Job answered and said:
“Today also my complaint is bitter;
my hand is heavy on account of my groaning.
Oh, that I knew where I might find him,
that I might come even to his seat!
I would lay my case before him
and fill my mouth with arguments.
I would know what he would answer me
and understand what he would say to me.
Would he contend with me in the greatness of his power?
NO, HE WOULD PAY ATTENTION TO ME."
(Job 23:1-6)

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Grandma B
11/28/2014 11:25:42 pm

All we can do is pray our hearts go out to you,

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Laurie
11/28/2014 11:47:30 pm

I don't know the pain of this particular experience that you are having, but I know of the pain you are describing. I am very sorry you too have to know what that feels like. Hugs. So many hugs. And please call on me if you need anything.

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Ken Hood
11/29/2014 01:24:51 am

They will be remembered and cherished.

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Jen
11/29/2014 05:15:32 am

I am so sad for you. Sending you prayers for comfort and hope. Thank you for sharing your story and amazing faith.

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Renae Groskreutz
11/29/2014 06:18:08 am

Praying for hope and comfort for both of you.

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Jill link
11/30/2014 06:56:26 am

Sending prayers to you and your family. Keep your hope alive.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for your welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

Jerehiah 29:11

I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans for your welfare and not to harm you. Plans to give you a future and a hope.

Hang in there.

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Hollee Saville
12/7/2014 06:35:49 am

I am so sorry. Jessica and Ryan. We love you both and can't imagine the pain and loss you've endured. Thank you for holding on to your faith through it all...it is truly a testament to His love for us and you're inspiring us through your journey. Please let us know if you need anything from us.

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